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fuckyeahlauragrace: Against Me! just announced some new tour...
Against Me! just announced some new tour dates for June! From Facebook:
AGAINST ME! JUNE DATES:
w/ Fea
*Tickets on-sale this Friday, April 22nd*
THUR June 2nd Chameleon Club - Lancaster, PAhttp://ticketf.ly/22LdJbx
SAT June 4th Governor’s Ball Music Festival - New York, NY http://bit.ly/22Q1gGd
SUN June 5th Free Press Summer Fest - Houston, TX http://bit.ly/21AtDdC
FRI June 17th Varsity Theater - Minneapolis, MN http://bit.ly/1WDuUfy
SAT June 18th The Rave Bar - Milwaukee, WIhttp://bit.ly/1SqQgtE
SUN June 19th Metro - Chicago, ILhttp://bit.ly/1StugRP
TUE June 21st The Loft - Lansing, MIhttp://bit.ly/1YFkj26
WED June 22nd Phoenix Concert Theatre - Toronto, ON http://ticketf.ly/20Upihg
THURS June 23rd London Music Hall - London, ONhttp://ticketf.ly/1SiMe48
FRI June 24th Amnesia Rockfest - Montebello, Canada http://bit.ly/1SiMi3Z
SAT June 25th Lost Horizon - Syracuse, NYhttp://ticketf.ly/20UpGfx
SUN June 26th Grog Shop - Cleveland Heights, OHhttp://ticketf.ly/1Nkwtg7
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raccoonhearteyes: Wanheda Two Heda Red Heda Blue Heda
Wanheda
Two Heda
Red Heda
Blue Heda
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depressionresource: borderbetweencountries: sapphicscience: i’m tired of “how to help a partner...
i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship
So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.
communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough - communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too.
ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give.
be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him - it helps a lot.
use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable - ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days.
be willing to give each other space. But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you.
acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem.
call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way - just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening.
learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes.
These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.This is great and I would like to add some things since almost all of my relationships have been with someone else with mental health issues.
One, it’s important to remember that one person’s pain does not negate the other’s. In a lot of my relationships, if someone was feeling shitty, the other person would keep to themselves something on their mind and try to take care of the other person whether they were capable or not. You can both have a bad day at the same time, and one person does not have to take care of the other.
Two, you have to be careful about feeling the other person’s feelings. I think a lot of people get this confused with empathy, but you can learn to be empathetic without doing this. If you feel shitty because another person feels shitty or vice versa, you’re going to feel shitty a lot more than you have to.
Take care of each other, everybody.
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Stranger: *bumps into me*
Stranger: *bumps into me*
Me: Oh my god, I'm sorry!
Friend: *bumps into me*
Me: u wana fuckign GO i can take on 20 skeletons at the same time dont test me
Me: Oh my god, I'm sorry!
Friend: *bumps into me*
Me: u wana fuckign GO i can take on 20 skeletons at the same time dont test me
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2cc48a: my soul bruises every time someone yells at me
my soul bruises every time someone yells at me
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heyjayyay: fearwanheda: Sexuality: Alycia tweeting in...
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factions: actors kiss each other for like 7 seasons and don’t fall in love but when someone holds...
actors kiss each other for like 7 seasons and don’t fall in love but when someone holds the door for me i think about it for like 4 months
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Finally got my hands on a pair of the @promarkbydaddario Select...
Finally got my hands on a pair of the @promarkbydaddario Select Balance 5As! Definitely feel great! #Promark #drumlife
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0liviabenson: Happy birthday Mariska Hargitay - January 23,...
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Me: *watches orphan black*
Me: *watches orphan black*
Me: *immediately puts a flashlight in my mouth*
Me: *immediately puts a flashlight in my mouth*
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Okay. I need to get this out. Someone who I’m close with, just admitted to me that they like me more...
Okay. I need to get this out. Someone who I’m close with, just admitted to me that they like me more than friends. Me being the fucking idiot just said that’s cool. Tbh I was gonna tell them that I sorta like them more than friends too. See here’s the deal. They have just gotten out of a relationship, and well we’re sorta in a band together. And well I don’t wanna fuck that up what so ever cause it’s something really good. And at this rate I might as well be bi because like I don’t fucking care what you identify as. If you’re hot, you’re hot, ya know?
So I’m just trying to process this all. And I’ll probably text them later. But this is a fucking wake up call to me.
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starbuckssloverr: I wanna go to the beach at 4 am and watch the sunrise with you
I wanna go to the beach at 4 am and watch the sunrise with you
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lizzie-mcguire: Rest In Peace, Prince (7th June 1958 - 21st...
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iam-daddy: officialunitedstates: “What does the chef recommend?” “Sir, this is a...
“What does the chef recommend?”
“Sir, this is a mcdonalds”
HAHAHAHAH
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lovelysuggestion: I’m sorry I always stare, but you’re so endearing and fascinating that it’s hard...
I’m sorry I always stare, but you’re so endearing and fascinating that it’s hard to not
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agentspender: WOW look what i got in the mail
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hedapowerclexa: Ontari speaking in Trigedasleng me:Lexa speaking in Trigedaslengme:
Ontari speaking in Trigedasleng
me:
Lexa speaking in Trigedasleng
me:
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