men: *commit over 90% of violence to women and to themselves*
women: *create shelters to protect themselves from male violence*
men: OMG that is NOT FAIR! There are no shelters for us! You have to let men in to your shelters!
women: Create your own shelters? Women need to be protected from men, and we don't know who we can trust, so our shelters need to remain women only spaces.
men: Nononono, see, you have to do free labor for us and solve the problems we create for ourselves. You are not allowed to focus on the problems we created for you until you solve the problems we created for ourselves first.
men: It's only equality if women put us before themselves!